tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post8586997305828943793..comments2023-04-19T19:23:05.905-05:00Comments on slowtech: On marriage, and weddings, and the bridal experience.Cara dBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10627350922307262483noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-14168545219555760582008-05-08T06:58:00.000-05:002008-05-08T06:58:00.000-05:00Reading to the end of that blog was painful, why a...Reading to the end of that blog was painful, why are you still going on about our marriage, when you know exactly why we got married. Immigration in the UK was a problem for you and you were so disappointed that you couldn’t stay. Sure we said we would marry properly in the future but that future never came. It was very hard to maintain a relationship with someone that completely cut herself off from society. <BR/>Unreal that you will be wearing a vera wang dress, thought you would be up for something simpler from the Armani Prive collection. What would an underdressed ‘hills have eyes’ character look like walking up the isle with you.<BR/>I only read the posts to see how Interim is doing, she’s fine so stop fussing with the vets, she does it on purpose for attention, the more you fuss the more she will do it. She must be costing you a fortune <BR/>It would be nice if you could stop posting about me on a public indexable forum, I have never said anything demeaning about you to anyone, so would expect the same courtesy. <BR/>Remember this is your first REAL wedding so treat it that way and look fabulous...<BR/>Anyway I wish you all the best with the wedding and hope it goes as you had planned itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-20795654566696905402008-04-25T15:54:00.000-05:002008-04-25T15:54:00.000-05:00a little bit boringly, at bed, bath and beyond and...a little bit boringly, at bed, bath and beyond and also at macy's.Cara dBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10627350922307262483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-19377315840154116352008-04-23T01:53:00.000-05:002008-04-23T01:53:00.000-05:00So, where *are* you registered?So, where *are* you registered?Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16952205474470685425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-44803743712227325112008-04-18T21:37:00.000-05:002008-04-18T21:37:00.000-05:00Brave to get married at all, you mean, or brave to...Brave to get married at all, you mean, or brave to go through a wedding?<BR/><BR/>And Sarah, I'm only doing it this way because I tried the no fuss route last time and regretted it. Heh. So I'll do it the other way now. Oh, and don't feel bad about being out of the loop, I have tried to be quiet about it all along. Until now, when it's taking over my life. Heh. <BR/><BR/>But hey, the ballroom dancing lessons we just got back from were totally fun!Cara dBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10627350922307262483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-84032477260792952632008-04-18T19:15:00.000-05:002008-04-18T19:15:00.000-05:00I read to the end. And I have really nothing to sa...I read to the end. And I have really nothing to say except I think you're very brave. That's probably not exactly the most romantic affirmation you're going to hear, but that was my first reaction so I'm sticking with it. At the very least, you're brave to wear foundation undergarments with no snaps.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14793601965773276686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-77871658500910622302008-04-17T13:11:00.000-05:002008-04-17T13:11:00.000-05:00Hey, Cara! First of all congratulations! I am co...Hey, Cara! First of all congratulations! I am completely out of the loop, I guess.<BR/><BR/>I read all the way to the end, too, so Kaethe and I can now compete in the next amateur level of long post reading.<BR/><BR/>The post made me both (a) very glad that Arthur and just ran down to the courthouse and (b) very sorry that Arthur and I just ran down to the courthouse. I'll never get to wear a wedding dress! On the other hand, I hate dressing up!<BR/><BR/>So...conflicted.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, all best wished to you and Dave.Rooiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14855810263415029931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-46236687625313528492008-04-17T10:40:00.000-05:002008-04-17T10:40:00.000-05:00Well, if you don't like intrusive and bizarre, not...Well, if you don't like intrusive and bizarre, not getting pregnant is a good plan. You can never get a village to help change diapers, but strangers are all over you with health dictates and pawing your stomach. (I really wanted kids so I was willing to put up with that, but I don't encourage anyone who isn't enthusiastic.)<BR/><BR/>Lucky me, I didn't have to get all feminist on the Spouse about naming the kids. He hated his last name, and preferred they have mine.<BR/><BR/>There, see, the name issue comes up and the comments soar. Winka.Kaethehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01138988651491869091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-87591863163497962412008-04-17T09:54:00.000-05:002008-04-17T09:54:00.000-05:00Well, thank you! For reading all the wya through a...Well, thank you! For reading all the wya through and for the nice comments.<BR/><BR/>Neither of us is changing. It's a huge PITA for me and he's not interested in taking my name. Plus, I really like deBeer. (No relation to the diamond merchants, FWIW.)<BR/><BR/>If we have kids, he wants them to have his name, which is fine with me. (And kids-at-all is currently a big if. There might be another post coming up about how, with a marriage on the horizon, people feel it's fine to ask about my reproductive timeline ... which I find intrusive and bizarre when it comes from people who are not friends or relatives.)Cara dBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10627350922307262483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28395314.post-47744201359921178452008-04-17T09:34:00.000-05:002008-04-17T09:34:00.000-05:00I did.It's isn't humorous, but it's very honest, a...I did.<BR/><BR/>It's isn't humorous, but it's very honest, and very clear-eyed. It's difficult to step outside the pampered bride mystique and look at the consumerism, and the assumptions implicit in the modern American wedding. Most people have a very hard time distinguishing between wedding and marriage.<BR/><BR/>Now, if you raise the issue of last names, you can get a hundred comments. So, are either of you changing?Kaethehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01138988651491869091noreply@blogger.com